Do you ever feel like your spouse isn't giving you exactly what you want? Maybe you want more romance, to be listened to or just a little encouragement. I believe couples often mirror each other. I think what you are giving, even when its not intentional, good or bad, your spouse gives it right back. For example, when I want Honey to be more romantic, the first thing I do is....be romantic first. Now of course we have two different ideas of what that means. He gets so excited when I treat him to a sporting event or even remember not to make plans after Sunday service during football season. For me, I love when he plans a nice dinner date or gets me something I mentioned wanting weeks prior (likely from an infomercial). But the moment I make him feel special, he does something to make me feel the same way. In my experience, when you're in a healthy marriage its not often that a spouse returns love and kindness with anything less than that. So before you get upset about what you are not getting in your relationship, consider what you are giving.